Journal Entries

1.      My mother is actively dieing, with a purpose and acceleration not previous part of the picture.  I hurt for her hurt, her fear, her aloneness, her paranoid hallucinations, the demon’s attack.  She called to start my week on Monday morning asking to see me, urgently, asking for my help to find a way to let go, to release her attachment to life.  She does not say this, but I know it.  She does not know where she is or if she is alive or dead, she says.  She wants “to see them again,” she tells me. 

I say, “Your husband will be glad to see you.” He’s been gone over twenty years. 

“You think so?” she asks with irony, “I’ve been thinking about that one and I’m not so sure.”  

A vast trove of data and information is dieing with my mother. 

She asks again, explicitly, if I can help her let go and I promise to do so, “But you have to wait until Saturday,” I say with a laugh to my petulant child, “I’m very busy, you know.” 

“I don’t think I can wait,” she says. 

“Well try, it’s important to me,” I tell her. 

2.      My sister calls.  She tells me my mother is asking for me daily.  It is so odd.  And yet I know with certainty that I am assigned the task of helping her release her grip on the things she can no longer hold on to or carry, that I can facilitate her dieing.  I must go to her.  I know it.  I don’t want to, but it is duty talking. 

“I’ll be there Saturday, Ma, hold on.” 

She hears my voice on the phone.  She hears the other voices that frighten and confuse her, both at the same time. 

“Who’s saying these words?” she asks. 

“I am,” I say. 

“No you’re not,” she insists.  “Who is it that is saying these words?”

“Your eldest son, Bruce,” I say. 

“No it isn’t,” says she. 

Apparently she is right. 

3.      I talk to her about my good fortune, about her granddaughter’s wedding announcement, about my involvement in the peace campaign, about her grandson’s basketball fortunes, the upcoming state championship game, his college acceptances, his athletic scholarships.  “Oh my god, oh my god,” she keeps repeating.  It is as if she is on the edge of tears that she cannot bear, that she is being overwhelmed by good fortune and grace in death.  “Oh my god,” she keeps saying, as if she were crying, as if what has been conveyed to her is too much good news at once. 

“Oh my god oh my god,” she offers in worship, in gratitude.
            

  4.       On Friday night late I arrive at friends who live in the appropriately named town next to her hospital of Valhalla.  I will see my mother on Saturday morning.  I have her release on my mind.  There is urgency, of course, but there is no urgency.  I have thought about it.  I have seen dark and enlightened thinking as well as the magical thinking in my speculations.  I know what I will say.  Whether it is projection, intuition, or knowledge-based I do not know, but it is clear to me what my words will be and that my words will have the power she wishes them to, that they will be a potent force and lead her to release from life unto death.  Besides, I have to be back in town for my son’s state championship basketball game on Sunday.

And I do want my mother dead.  It is what she has said she wants and I understand well why she would choose it.  I also want her death for my own convenience and expedience.  It is cold and disconnected and I do not know to what extent it is first my wish, made easier by my mother’s wishes, or if it is her wish first which finds fertile soil in her first born son.  I just know I will talk to her and she will die.  I think that truth is ridiculous.  I also think it is real.  Her physician has told me she will rally and recover, that the numbers are good, yet I feel her slipping away as the surreal and the real merge in me, surround me.  Before I go to see her I take a long walk in an unfamiliar cemetery and pause by a grave marker that reads Hug.

5.      I drive to the hospital feeling casual, relaxed, and in no hurry at all.  I arrive around 11A.M.  I ask at the nursing station what room my mother is in, and am directed to her.  I enter the room and walk past the woman in the first bed, whom I do not recognize.  Nor do I recognize the woman in the second bed.  I walk back to the nurses’ station to explain there has been a mistake but am again directed to the woman in the first bed in the room I’ve just been in.  It is, indeed, my mother, bandaged, stitched, her skin so old and thin it is everywhere black and blue. 

I sit by the side of her bed and talk with her.  I am not positive she knows exactly who is present but I think she does.  She responds to me with understanding grunts and nods to my inquiries.  “Do you want some water?”  “Do you want to change your position?”  She grasps one finger of my hand and squeezes it hard.  She holds my hand and I help pull her up to a more comfortable position.  The muscular strength and vitality in her arm is remarkable!  No one that physically strong can be close to death barring some other cause.  Her eyes are closed.  I lay down in bed with her positioned to my left, pulling up the guard rail behind me so that I can relax and not fall out of the single hospital bed.  I have not lain in bed with my mother in over sixty years.  It is quite possible I never did, that I was never provided that comfort or warmth.  I fall asleep next to her. 

6.      During my nap I dream of a house without windows on the north side that its owners have decided to put windows in, both to let in the light and to be able to see outside.  There are big rectangular spaces carved out of the house where the windows will go.  There are no frames yet built into the north wall, nor are the windows quite ready to be put in place. In the absence of windows the outside world of air and weather is also the air and weather inside the house.
            When I wake up from my nap my mother is laying on her left side and I rise up slightly to whisper into her right ear.  I kiss her check and her ear as I speak.  I brush her hair out of her face with my fingers.  I caress her face. 

         “You must let go of your beauty,” I tell her and she moans softly.  I know that were she fully awake she would advise me of my foolishness, tell me she has long ago let go of her beauty, tell me my ideas are foolish, silly, that I don’t know what I am speaking about, but I think she is wrong.  I speak softly to her, but definitely out loud.  It is more identity than vanity she must let go of. 

         “You must let go of your beauty and of your strength,” I tell her. 

         “You must let go of your body altogether, your wonderful body that has been such a good friend to you.”

         “You must let go of your sight, of your courage and determination, of your will to survive and your wish to be at your granddaughter’s wedding in this earthly form.”

         “You must let go of your father and mother,” I tell her, though this too she would see as the most foolish of thoughts, her father dead over 86 years then. 

         “You must let go of your children, of worrying about your children, of worrying about them worrying about you.” I can feel her relax in my arms.  Quite literally the tension in her body that I had not even realized was there passes out of her.  She relaxes and grows lighter in my arms.  Her breathing changes to an even slower pace.  I am aware my sister- in-law Ona has joined us.  I can’t remember when she came into the room. 

7.      “I don’t know what dieing breaths look like,” I tell Ona, “but these sure look like them to me.”  I have never lain next to anyone when they died.  My mother looks so peaceful between her slow deep breaths.  And then there are none.  It cannot be 15 minutes since I talked to her about letting go, and she is gone. 

“She’s dead,” Ona says, and I nod acknowledging it is so.  We do not call nurses.  We sit with her.  I hold her.  I whisper in her ear, “This is the last gift we will give each other, thank you, mom.”  I say “thank you” a lot.  I laugh and cry a little.  At some point a nurse comes in. 

“She’s gone,” I say and the nurse feels for any pulse and nods that it is so. 

A doctor with a stethoscope arrives and says it is so. 

My sister arrives and it is so.  It will be so forever.  My mother is dead. 

I call my brother to tell him it is so.  He arrives in an hour.  He waves an eagle feather over his mother’s remains and her lifting spirit.  He brushes her with sage.  He reads from the Tibetan Book of the Dead.  We all leave the hospital before her body is enshrouded and wrapped.

8.      I drive back to Brookline.  I call and talk from the heart with whoever is up on the west coast.  I tell my daughter who cries more than anyone else, saying how she wishes she could have seen her grandma before she died.  My giant son welcomes me home at 3 A.M. with a big hug.  Everything is the same and everything is different.  I tell him that just because his grandmother has died does not mean he is not allowed to enjoy things or laugh and play basketball, that there will be time to be sad.  He says, “I know, Popi.”  I suspect he really does.

9.      I walk with best friend Steven on Sunday morning.  I pick up my daughter up at the airport in the afternoon.  My son starts at power forward for Brookline High in the state championship basketball game at the Fleet Center, home of the Celtics, that night.  The town police escort the team bus to the game.  I tell him to remember that the height of the basket and the dimensions of the court are the same as any other basketball court and he tells me that that was exactly what the coach told his players in “Hoosiers.”  He has painted, “I play for you, Grandma,” on his basketball shoes.

Brookline plays very poorly and is being shut out when Sam makes the first BHS basket, bringing the score to 7 to 2.  He makes both his first free throws.  At the half Brookline is down 10.  With seven minutes left in the game they are down 14.  With 10 seconds left they are down by one point and have the ball out of bounds on the sideline under the opposing team’s basket, but the inbound pass is stolen and the game is ended.          Sam is deeply dejected.   He is also fine.  We are all fine.  He has played for the state championship.  He has started every game.  His grandmother loved him, not as I would have had her love him, but genuinely and for all the right reasons.  The game is over.  The season is ended.

10.     We have a lovely memorial service in NY, something my mother would be pleased with.  Is it only Monday?  The service is simple and eloquent.  My brother talks about how he liked seeing his mother age like an olden tree.  My sister reads from a Gibran poem that speaks of sadness being the source of joy and joy the source of sadness.  I speak of half empty and half full cups, of cups that runneth over.

In the morning before the service I walk unconsciously into the lobby of an old castle on the top of a hill overlooking one hundred and eighty degrees of the Hudson River.  As I stroll over the palisades someone comes out to tell me that the grounds are only for private use.  “My mother’s stay at this castle is over,” I mumble. 
        We all drive back to the private day school where my sister works, after the service, to a lovely, quaint, Adirondack like apartment where we watch old 8mm family movies and just hang out.  Mom’s body is driven to a crematorium in New Jersey.  We drive back to Brookline.  It snows hard and takes us twice as long as usually and then it is over. What does love have to do with death?  Maybe the terror. Maybe the ecstasy.

My gene pool, my stock, this tribe, arose in the veldt. I began as a predator and have always known this, in every sinew of my body and every synapse of my brain. I feel the excitement, the fear, the sharp concentration and flesh ripping success of the savannah, the pride, the sharing, my love of family and young. The savannah holds and informs me, accompanies me in my journey from the savannah into the world beyond. I trace my roots to the savannah. To know me, know that I begin as nomad, as hunter and gatherer, that I fashioned hand tools, ran hard and fast, lived life in the raw, protected the communal fire; that I have brought all of that with me, as I do the fear, the watchful eye, and the stalking skinny hunger. There is also peace on the savannah. The sun is warm. The water is plentiful. The soil is soft beneath my naked feet. My belly is full and my mind at rest.
How familiar that every time I ever try to speak about my origins I succumb to a demand that I find the time that preceded that time, and the time before that, and thus I find myself standing in blood, drawing on a cave wall with chewed twig ends and fingertips, speaking long heartfelt sentences well before the red paint dries. Crying. Chanting and moaning. Listening to the drumbeats as I draw the slayings on the wall. The hunt. The dead big creatures. I am proud of our kills, frustrated by my drawings. I want to show the smiles on the faces of my family and the full bellies of my children, but all I manage is the dead animal, its great heart, and our men with spears.
Which brings us, if you travel with me through time, to the twenty first century as measured by modern men and women, to the purchase of foods with no odor, food wrapped in plastic, boxed in cardboard, and sold in supermarkets where dull music is played, and where I pay for all of the goods and services which keep me and my family alive with little pieces of rectangular plastic. No spears.
Between my death on the savannah and this first newest breath of “my” life is a time inside of which was no time, no days, no light, no darkness, only time. And then a stirring in warm tasty seas, in a cocoon, as in the beginning, a sense of comfortable boundaries, of there being no boundaries, of all being one and one being all. I was happy there. Careless I think.

I move from the Freshman Annex of the Bronx High School of Science to the main building on 183rd street. I ride the bus to school each morning with Fred Greenberg. I stop by the second floor apartment of his walk-up apartment house to get him each morning on the way to the bus. I wait in the kitchen, right off the front hallway. He is never ready. His mother, an Old World piano teacher, is always preparing his breakfast of cereal, eggs, milk, juice, and toast. The apartment is always silent and dark. His mother calls to him that breakfast is ready. He clomps into the kitchen wearing very loud loose fitting black engineers’ boots with taps on the heels. His footsteps in the apartment are those of a giant in a dungeon. His boots make an unbelievable loud sound on the wooden floors. He never eats any breakfast. He drinks as much juice or milk as he can swallow in one impatient gulp. He grabs the toast and takes his first bite of it as he pulls on his jacket. His mother asks if he has all his books, what he will be doing after school, and if he needs anything. She speaks quickly. Freddy never answers. His mouth is stuffed with milk and toast. His hands are full of clothes and books. He mumbles a one word unintelligible answer to his mother’s inquiries, something like, “umrrph.” He looks at me and jerks his head toward the front hall. As we walk out he slams the metal door to their apartment closed. It shakes the walls. He clomps down the tiled corridor and the marble stairs of the walk up apartment house with the sound of his footsteps a literal racket, a jackhammer being run on very low speed, but striking hard. It is 1956. Our Lucky Strike cigarettes are hidden in our jackets. We will not light up for the first time that day until right before we get off the bus. We will go into the candy store and deli on the corner of the Grand Concourse and 182nd Street. A dozen of our classmates will be crowded into booths talking and smoking and eating sugary donuts.

I cut out of school quite often, especially study halls where attendance is not taken. I hide out in pool halls and the apartments of friends where parents are never home playing cards. I master forging the signatures of my parents and of Mr. Rae, the high school guardian of discipline. And although I am not the most adept forger in my H.S. there are so many forgeries of Mr. Rae floating around that no one who matters knows what his real signature looks like. And the one time I get busted I only do five days detention. And therein another tale.

1. My parents rent a small, furnished bungalow on Rockaway Beach, at the outer edges of Brooklyn, with Marion and Sidney Star, a couple who also live in our apartment building in the Bronx. Rock-a-way, I like that word and the play on meanings it provides. Rockaway.
The smell of the ocean is wonderful. The warm sand is wonderful. I chase sea birds along the shore and make believe I can fly. I am two years old and there is almost no place I cannot go and not much I cannot do. I like that. I spend a lot of time climbing up onto my bed and climbing down out of my bed. I bounce and jump. I like to bounce.
The cottage is nestled in toward the end of a long block of cottages, each cottage packed tightly in close to the next, all connected directly to the beach by a narrow sandy asphalt street. The Stars have an infant daughter, Louise. Sidney is a schoolteacher. He has the summer off, and works part time at a day camp. My father is a New York City fireman. He is not yet twenty-eight years old. He is on duty for twenty-four hours and then off three days in a row. He and Sidney walk with their children on the beach. They play competitive handball on the neighborhood courts. I watch them from a bench, sometimes seated with my mother.
In the cottage there is a small kitchen with a metal table and chairs, one bathroom, and two bedrooms separated by cardboard thin walls. No one lives in the cottage year around. At night we draw closed the window shades so that the shoreline is darkened and the coastline protected from the view of attacking enemy submarines or aircraft.
There is always talk of war, of friends and uncles serving in the war. There is great anger, uncertainty, and fear. My father’s brother, Uncle Sol, is in the army. He is a raconteur with U.S. forces in Europe and North Africa, the colonel’s driver, the supply man, the securer of fresh vegetables, women, and wine. I am sent photographs of him in his jeep, in his uniform, with young women smiling at his side.
Uncle Al is in the navy.
My father’s youngest brother, Bill, tells me proudly he is going to war and joins the air force when he turns eighteen. I have photographs of Bill looking dashing, a young pilot smiling from the cockpit of his plane, pictures of him in India with a dead tiger, pictures of him with his tee shirt sleeves rolled up leaning against a car, a Bronx tough with a thin moustache. Uncle Bill brought home lovely clay figurines from Asia. He became a New York City narcotics detective who married the most beautiful woman I ever met, beat his family regularly, and put the barrel of his service revolver inside his young daughter’s mouth.
My father’s best friend Sam, who was a pacifist but joined the army anyway, was killed landing with the allied forces in Italy. My sister, born before war’s end, is named after him. I am told stories and shown pictures of airplanes diving through slate gray skies, of infantrymen with bloody bayonets rushing forward on beaches. Beaches like Rockaway. The irony of a world at war is not lost on a boy born on Armistice’s Day. It puzzles me how men can fight in horrific battles where thousands of lives are eradicated and destroyed. I also don’t know where I go when I am sleeping … and worry I won’t come back.

2. I am bouncing on the coach in the living room of the cottage, home alone with my father, Marion, and the infant Louise. Mother has gone off for the day, which is unusual. Perhaps they’ve had a fight. I am lifted playfully high into the air by my father and held at the end of his extended arms looking down into his upturned face. My rump brushes the ceiling. He is smiling. I am screaming with pleasure and joy. He swings me around and sits me down in the high chair in the kitchen. I am secured there by a little wooden tabletop attached to the sides of the high chair with aluminum arms. The tabletop acts as a restraint that rises up and down to let me in and out of the chair. There is no security strap between my legs. My lunch of apple and cheese slices is placed on this high chair table top along with a full glass of milk.
Sidney is not at home.
Marion is wearing a floral bathing suit. Her breasts are beautiful and obvious. Her thighs are naked. She is a very pretty athletic woman with dark hair pulled back from her face. My father is wearing his blue bathing shorts and a pair of black ankle high sneakers. He is very handsome and strong. He is aware of Marion’s body, as she is of his.
I remain seated in the high chair as Marion and my father move self-consciously about the small cottage kitchen. They have never seen each other in bathing suits before this summer, never shared a bathroom before, and surely never slept a paper-thin wall apart from one another, nor have they ever been alone with each other half naked on a hot sunny August afternoon, on a crystal clear eye squinting day, on a day father has promised to take me to the beach.

3. Father and Marion are shy and self-conscious around one another. Their tension squeezes the air out through the screen door of the cottage into the street. They speak in words that are tight and stiff.
“Maybe I should take Bruce to the beach before Louise wakes up,” father says.
“No, stay here with me. I want to go with you when she awakens.”
He cannot take his eyes off of Marion or her breasts, their slope, the remarkable beauty of her shimmering flesh. He has never seen Marion this way before, perhaps never been half naked and alone with a woman other than mother before.
Father does not want to be caught staring. There is nothing else he can do. Marion looks father in the eye, as if to say, “What? What will we do with all this feeling?” Father rubs his hands together as if he were cold. He cracks his knuckles. He stares at his fingers. He looks at the floor. He looks at me and winks.
“Eat something,” he says and I dutifully pick up a piece of cheese but don’t put it in my mouth.
“Aren’t you hungry,” he asks, and I shake my head from side to side as far as I can, exaggeratedly saying “no.”
“Don’t you want it,” he asks me.
He looks at Marion. She blushes.
“Okay then, why don’t you get down and get ready for the beach. Get your pail and shovel and we’re off.”

4. In one hand he picks up the apple and cheese pieces off the high chair table. With his other hand he gives me the nearly full glass of milk to hold and then lifts the high chair tabletop up over the chair to let me down as he walks back across the kitchen toward the sink.

As he reaches the big kitchen table he turns toward Marion who is still standing with her back pressed against the cast iron sink. Her hands supporting her as she rests against the sink top. My father tries to get past her. He is taking funny sliding side-to-side steps. He is facing Marion leaning against the sink. There is barely enough room for him to slide by. I sit in the highchair watching them. Father stops and leans back against the metal kitchen table. He folds his arms against his chest. His breathing raises and lowers his arms.

Marion says, “Maybe I should wake Louise.”

“No, let her sleep,” father says.

5. They are facing one another, standing and staring, leaning away with their bodies, nearly touching with their feet. They are in that same position for what seems a long time when the tension eases out of them. You can see it. Their bodies soften. Their faces break into smiles. They say nothing to one another but clearly enjoy the opportunity to be this close. Father drops his arms to his side. He opens his mouth to breathe. Marion’s eyes sparkle. They are each smiling broadly. Marion asks, “Yes?” There is no other sound in the room. No sound outside the cottage. Not a plane overhead. Not a car passing through the city streets. Father raises his right hand to his face. He wipes it down across his nose and chin. Marion’s breasts swell and lower as she breathes, like the ocean on a quiet day pressing and retreating against the sand.
“Marty,” she say softly. His name a prayer, a praise of god in heaven. “What should we do?”

6. Father takes a very deep long breath and lets the air out slowly through his nose as I start to ease myself out of the high chair. I try to turn so that I can use the arms and the rungs of the chair to let myself down backwards, as I usually do. But I have the full glass of milk in my left hand and find myself sliding too quickly forward out of the seat. I grab at the arm of the chair with my right hand but am pitched forward out of the chair, my legs tangled and slipping from the rungs. Falling.
“Marty!” Marion yells as she sees me, her mouth and eyes wide opened. Father turns and moves toward the chair. His arms reach out to me. He is too far away and too slow to stop my fall. My butt hits the edge of the seat. I lurch forward from the high chair holding tightly to the glass of milk. I reach out with my left arm to break my fall and land hard on the glass, which shatters into large shards, driving a large wedge of glass deeply into my left hand and wrist.

7. I feel intense pain instantly and see the spurting arterial blood pulsing out of my arm turned quickly red and wet. There is an open gash in my palm, which runs up through my wrist and arm. I imagine I see bone through the parted flesh. Other shards of glass skitter across the floor. My head bounces hard onto one of them and glass is stuck into my forehead, which is also bleeding. Blood is spurting furiously out of my hand and wrist. I grab my left arm with my right hand below the wrist and scream. There is only terror.

8. Father lifts me up. “Oh, shit!” he screams. “Oh shit! Oh God Marion Jesus help me. Please help me. Oh god. Oh shit. Get me a towel Marion. Please, Marion get me a towel. Oh god.”
Father’s arms and hands are red with my blood. His left shoulder is covered with blood. There is blood on his chest. There is blood on his sneakers. There is blood on the floor. I do not hear myself screaming.
Father wraps a bath towel around my left hand and wrist. He says, “Tourniquet.” He says, “I don’t fucking know.” He says, “Marion, where’s the nearest hospital?” He says, “Oh shit.” He says ‘oh shit’ a lot. He says, “Don’t cry boy.” He says, “don’t cry boy you’re gonna be fine.” He says, “don’t cry,” but it is he who is crying and he doesn’t even know it.
And I am decidedly not fine. I am terrified. I am hurt. I am frightened and blood is pouring down my face and spurting out my wrist. There is blood in my eye and blood in my mouth. I am really not fine, I know. I am, in fact, bleeding to death. So I scream again, even louder. I scream again and again. I scream to blot out everything in the world but my scream. I scream to scream … and then I grow quiet and still and cold. And it is my father who is frightened, which is perhaps the most terrifying of all.

9. “No no no,” father says. “Oh no.”
“The hospital is on One Hundred and Eighteenth Street and Rockaway Boulevard,” says Marion. She throws a shirt at my father as he runs with me in his arms out the door of the cottage into the sunlight of the August day.
Carried in father’s arms running up Rockaway Boulevard I am no longer terrified, no longer screaming, no longer in pain. I bounce uncomfortable and dazed against my father’s chest and shoulders. I seem suspended, outside myself, watching myself and my father running, watching the towel now completely red, wondrously red. My father is running. Running. And I am bouncing over his shoulder. His breathing heavy, he paces himself. He does not speak. He cannot speak. My head bounces up and down as father jogs along the Brooklyn pavement. The blood is warm in my mouth. It takes fifteen minutes to get to the hospital.
Father runs with me into the emergency entrance corridor. It is dark and cool inside the building. I am quite cold on this hot day. Shivering even.

10. “I am a fireman,” father gasps. “My son is seriously injured. He needs a doctor. Immediately. Please. Somebody help me.”
A nurse in a white uniform takes me from my fathers arm. I am trembling. She unwraps the towel from my arm. Her uniform is quickly stained with blood. “Jesus Christ!” she says. “Get a doctor in here!” she says to the air. “I mean it. Immediately.”

11. I am placed on a cold metal table. There are wide bright lights. I am shaking. I try to run away, to climb down, to bounce, but the nurses’ arms hold me. I scream again. Scream as loudly as I can.
“Daddy! Please don’t leave me. I promise I won’t cry,” I say as my father leaves the room filled with people in white uniforms moving around the room talking. I lose track of myself. Some little boy is being bandaged and sutured. I lie above myself looking down at the boy on the table shivering and crying. There is concern I will lose the use of my left hand. I hear the whispering. Then I am taken home. We leave the hospital together, that boy and I. My arm in a sling and my head bandaged. I feel considerable pain. My father gets a cab and we ride home. Mother is predictably angry when we walk in the door at the cottage. Father is angry too. It is the emotion that comes easiest to them.
“What happened,” mother demands to know.
“It was just an accident,” my father says, “he was climbing out of the highchair and then it happened.”

12. In the photograph taken later that week the boy is seated alone on the edge of the Rockaway cottage’s front stoop, precariously perched three or four feet above the ground. He is smiling, but there is a faint look of anxiety on his face, a reflection of his fear he will fall because he is not securely seated. The boy props himself up and braces himself with his good right arm. He is wearing a small pair of the brown ankle high leather shoes that kids wore when they were two years old in the forties, a part of shorts, and a long sleeved pull over shirt with the left arm sleeve flopping down. There is a large bandage over his left eye running halfway up his forehead. His left arm is in a sling and his hand and wrist are extensively bandaged as he sits in harm’s way.
Father has posed the boy on the stoop’s edge to take this picture. He has told the boy to smile. He is proud of his injured boy, his only child. He has disregarded, or is devoid of awareness, of the child’s feeling of anxiety, so deeply in love with his son and his own emotions when he is aware of them, he is unable to attune to or acknowledge the boy’s vulnerability.

13. Where is that boy who was with me in the hospital, that boy sitting obediently on the stoop? Here he is, inside this scar on my wrist, inside the scar on my eye, inside the scars on his vision and his heart. Now again on the beach. Now bouncing and jumping. I like to bounce.

“Shhh,” says my mother, “you’ll wake your sister.”
“But I’m scared, mama. Scared.”
“Oh, for god’s sake what’s wrong with you,” says my mother.
“What are you, sick or something? What kind of little kid worries about dying?”
“I’m sorry, mama. I’m really sorry. I’m not sick. I’m just scared.”
And I am scared, terrified actually, literally shaking with fear, bouncing on the balls of my feet, wanting to run I don’t know where. Out of the burden of living a life that must end in complete annihilation.
“I heard you the first time, now just stop it this instant, there is nothing to be frightened of,” my mother tells me. “What about the giant, the knives, and the witches?” I ask. “What about the hunters, and the men with guns, and the bad soldiers?”
“I told you, they’re not real. And they’re really not real. Period.”
“But they are real to me, mama. I see them every night.”
It’s been like this for weeks.
“Go back to bed. puuulllease,” my mother sighs. “Just think good thoughts. Think about the circus or ice cream. Think about something happy. Think about the baby. Think about not thinking so damn much! Please. Just stop crying and stop worrying.”
“Well put me to bed and lie with me,” I beg.
“Not a chance, kiddo, not a chance. I’ve already put you to bed once. Don’t be a baby.”
“The kid’s only five,” my father says.
“Fine, then you put him to sleep and lie with him.”
Father rolls out from his bed, takes my hand, and leads me back down the hallway into my bedroom. He tucks my blankets in. He leans down and whispers, “you’ll be okay boy, trust me on this one, you’ll be okay.” He kisses me on the forehead.
“Don’t go papa,” I plead as I grab my father’s hand, but he straightens up and pulls away.
“Goodnight son,” he says, framed in the doorway, and walks back to his bedroom.
“What are we going to do about that boy,” I hear my mother ask.
“Don’t worry, he’ll outgrow it,” says my father.
Something about their talking fills me with shame nearly as unbearable as my fears.
I look at the foggy street light pouring in through the window. I wonder where I go when I sleep and if I’ll be in this bed when I awake, if I awake. I clutch a torn stuffed bear with only one eye left.
“Wherever I go, Teddy,” I whisper, “is where you go too. Okay?”
And I swear that bear smiled.