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1 – Charcoal.
The twigs I gather as a girl are consumed, as intended, by fire.
With one partially burned stick I draw lines in the back of the only book we own.
I use the pads of my fingers to spread the charcoal on the page,
Thinning it, stretching it, creating shade and shadow,
Revealing another dimension, like my father’s rage.
At finding the holy book, not meant to be drawn in,
But there was no other paper in the cold cottage outside Warsaw.
Then I drew on the walls, sweeping my arm like tree branches,
Brushing the charcoal in wide arcs to reveal animals running and people in battle.
Mother tried to clean it before he came home, but could not
So she took me into her lap and whispered
I will tell him you will never ever draw again and you mustn’t.
It is the will of God. So I did not. And here I am, one hundred and thirty four years later.

2 – Ink
He was my husband
Before I knew what the word meant
He broke the glass and my hymen
And he loved me, or so he said,
Before I knew what love meant
Before there were children
I went to the mikvah where women bathed and talked
Of blood
And rules
Of inequity and injustice and fate
There were those who accepted everything as the word of God
And those who questioned everything
I told no one that I imagined my blood was ink.

3. Her Ruth
I had no sisters, no teachers, no schools
No mother I knew after age eight
No photographs, and a father more absent than present,
But my mother-in-law took me in as her Ruth
Loved me as her own, talked with me about my husband, her son
Of her wishes for him
And for me
Aided me in my time
Prepared warm cloths to soothe me
Sat behind and held me as I cried in terror and pain
“Mother,” I screamed
“Push child,” she told me
“This is what we do for them. For God.”

4 – Somewhere a Czar
I had his name, his seed, his children
But the Czar wanted his body
Which he yielded reluctantly, leaving for parts unknown.
I was destitute, did not hear from him
Or know of his fortunes for eight months
And then he returned, said he had walked for weeks
Deserted them to find the children and me
We laughed and cried and lay in bed with the boy and girl
Until the soldiers came.
We hid him under the table with the Sabbath cloth pulled down to the floor like a tent
But they shot him anyway, under the table, in front of the children, his mother, his wife
Left him there, his blood seeping into the floorboards
A stain forever

5 – And then America
America is an English word that means,
“And then thy children shall depart from you.”
Leaving the village to take a boat to heaven knows where
To a place called “I shall never see them again”
Even when I get a letter I cannot read
In an alphabet I cannot write in ink or blood.
I am plucking dead chickens to live
I am cold in winter, and immensely alone
But there is bread to eat
And warm water flavored with an onion and chicken feet
To soak it in
And my menses have ceased, and my tears have dried
And across vast salt oceans float my children

6 – I Arrive in the New World.
There is no word for the misery of the crossing
The anxiety, the quarters crowded with sick strangers
An adventure beyond my wildest imaginings on the vastest sea
To leave all that I had, which was nothing
And all that I knew, which was nothing
For something I could not imagine
Because the rabbi’s wife, who never talked to me outside the mikvah
Gave me a piece of paper she said was a ticket paid for by children
Who would meet me on the other side of the World
And although this was impossible I knew
With my three dresses and one pair of shoes
With my 2 undergarments, my shawl, my brass candle sticks
With all that I owned, I stepped across the water.

7 – My Daughter’s Husband
We cried together, we mourned our losses
And then we laughed.
It is all a miracle
She is a mother, with a son, and another on the way
In an apartment, with a husband who is never home
Except to complain how hard his work is, and then to sleep
A good man she tells me
Who never goes to shul
And neither does she
There is no mikvah, and neither can she read
But this thing called a radio speaks in Yiddish
And although nothing makes sense
We are all together

8 – Seven Grandchildren
My seven grandchildren produce five marriages
Ten great grandchildren
The husband is hospitalized
In the East River forever
Three kids go to War
Two become firemen
Another a pilot and policeman
Every child leaves home but one
Who I fear for
Though I have my daughter, and she has me
And we make sweetbread each New Year
And are visited by a great spirit
Wrapped in honey

9 – Great Grandchildren
We visit their grandfather, my son in law
On Welfare Island
Going down a huge freight elevator
From the bridge at 59th Street
My grandson, the fireman, who should have been a rabbi
Takes me and his mother, my daughter, and his sisters
He and the two girls, the loyal ones
I lived with him when his wife was ill
Passed my hands through the Sabbath candle flames
Brought warmth into my eyes and heart
Saved the young boy who knew only criticism and terror
With my shawl and black clunky shoes
With unconditional love and a roll of life savers

10 – The Old Age Home
They speak some other language the people here
And I cannot see them
When they move my form
To sit me up and lay me down
To make my bed with clean sheets
Cool and firm
And the visitors who fall in upon me
Dropped from heaven.
I do not know if I am living or dead
When the fireman places the wet washcloth edges in my mouth so I may suck them
And folds the cloth with love to place it upon my forehead
And gives me my great grandson’s hand
Which by its feel I know him

11 – Reflection
Many years ago I drew the animals in the holy book
I remember everything about them
Except how I knew of them
Or knew of anything outside our hut
What is “know” anyhow
And how do we know it
The great teachings in the Book –
Love the lord
Be kind
Know the rules and never break them.
There was an ark I was told
And inside the ark devoted couples
I knew a man, I was a child

12 – Death
I am ninety two years old they tell me
When they bring me to the party
I have never had a party before
I see only shadows, but hear everything
The rabbi says my name
People are singing
Each one gives me their hand
Which I feel and know
They bend down to kiss me
As I lie perfectly still, cold to their touch
She was a saint the rabbi says
As he places pieces of thick blue glass from a broken bottle
Over the lids of my closed still eyes

13 – After Life
Once more I pass my hands through the flames
Bring the light and the warmth into my eyes with my fingers
Sand passing thru the egg timer
Turned upside down to count again
A grain who understands her purposes
To flow, to rest, to be the tide
Here I am 75 years old in the apartment in the Bronx
Now 50
Now with charcoal staining my fingers
Shading the she wolf and dog
Now inside my mother
As she receives the semen
Now again swimming

the beautiful jumping spider awakens
on the inner side of the south facing window pane
on a warm day in winter
resting on her mullion

on the other side of the glass
between the exterior of the window pane
and the storm window
a much smaller spider
awakens to spin her web

wherever the smaller spider moves
the bigger spider follows
as if magnetized
up and down across the pane
tracking with instant accuracy
but never to meet
the larger inner spider
seems not to understand
the reality of glass and transparency
the smaller outer spider
seems oblivious

the inner spider wants more meaningful contact
whether love or consumption
we do not know
sometimes they are merged
oblivion and hunger
separated by a pane of glass
though unlike these spiders
i am sure of my intentions
and can actually smell you

I called my partner
Sitting alone in her office
Near the sea
And proposed
We chant together
Which we did
My cell phone resting on Alan’s wooden coffin
The speaker on
Joy chanting softly into the phone
Me chanting out loud
Alone in the chapel
wondering what if anything
the body in the box
felt of the vibration
of our hearts
our breaths
and our voices
our prayers
and our intentions.

We live in a small town
Joy and I,
In a small cottage
With a dog
And one mouse
Who – while I was away at the funeral –
Must have been practicing
His high wire act
And had fallen somehow
Straight into the dog’s water bowl
and drowned.

Like the mouse
Alan had known years of high wire balancing
And had fallen off his wire
Only to land miraculously on his feet
Dazed but still breathing
A dozen times
He just kept running
Every time but once.

Two weeks after his death
I sent Alan an email
With Picasso’s line drawing
Of Julius and Ethel Rosenberg –
It was the anniversary of their deaths –
And about the struggle in Palestine –
Which I knew he’d want to hear about
And would have had something to say
That would have helped put my pain
In perspective,
But the email returned,
With a note that read,
“Out of Office,”
Whereupon I noticed my own high wire perch
And losing balance
Fell down praying
As I had
Over Alan’s coffin.

1.
Miles’ earthly body,
last seen in a three foot wide by seven foot long cardboard box,
next manifests in physical form
as ashes and bone chips
which fit inside a three inch wide by seven inch high cardboard box,
all that is left of his physical form
interred into the same wormy earth
beneath the big stone
with the almost completely faded painted rose
where his maternal grandmother’s
and maternal grandfather’s ashes
and the ashes of miscellaneous bachelor uncles lay
amidst the composting leaves of the forest,
all of Miles’ ashes
except for one gray powdery tablespoon
that his mother gives me
his maternal uncle
to take on my journey
to visit holy places
in Southeast Asia

2.
The ashes travel in a plastic bag
Inside a purple pouch
Inside my shirt pocket
Next to my heart
Where sometimes they sleep with me
My own body
Reaching into the stillness of them

3.
They travel to Chiang Mai
Where at the holy temple of Wat Jedyod
A pinch of Miles is placed inside a flowerpot
Outside the doorway to the Seven Peaks Library
And in the very instant Miles’ ashes are released
Music begins
And we are guided to a band of eight musicians
Banging on drums and bells
On chimes and cymbals
All hung from a bamboo pole
resting on the shoulders of men
separated from one another
by the length of a coffin.

4.
After my own son leaves for home
I wander the Mekong river shore
Passed cabbages
Growing in small plots
On the hillsides that bound the flowing waters
Where I sit on a stone anchor
Wrapped with cord
Awaiting the return of the boats it serves
And remove another pinch
Of Miles’ ashes
To cast like the solitary silent fisherman
Casts his weighted net upon the waters
The net sinking and settling over tiny silver fish
That the fisherman brings to shore
Gasping for life
As he harvests them
One by one
To deposit into the small woven basket at his back
While a tiny sliver of a boat
Filled with monks and peasant women
Is pushed off by a ferryman
With a long pole
Crossing to a village hidden
Around a bend
On the other side of the great river
And music arises from a source I cannot see
And a rooster crows
Amidst the sound of hammering
And engines
And the voices of children
Flags waving on tall bamboo poles
And there is more
And there is no more
Other than the wake of the departed boat
Lapping at the shore

5.
In Luang Prabang
The ashes attach to the bows of longboats
Arriving from the eastern shore
Loaded with sacks of vegetables
Bananas
And flowers for sale.
And Miles’ tiny silver slivers
Come home to rest in the great river.

6.
In Vang Vieng
Where beautiful Lao women bathe
And wash their clothing
As their young children
Run naked to watch the hot air balloon
being inflated on the river’s bank
Next to herds of skinny cattle
Being driven home
At the end of day
Along the shoreline
By herds of skinny shepherds
And dozens of young people
Delight in the flowing river,
The Lao beers they drink,
And one another.
The pain of your absence,
Is not always something I can protect myself from
As I wash your ashes
From my fingers
And you come to rest
In a River named Song.

7.
At the feet of a large stone Buddha
In a hole bored to impale wooden stakes
To which were tied the ropes
Used to move the stones
From the quarry grounds
To the carving grounds
And from the carving grounds
Across the moat
And up the ramps
Beyond the scaffolding
By elephants
Where the statue was blessed
And came to rest forever
And where centuries later
I inserted your ashes
At the base of the Buddha
And closed my eyes to pray
And saw the bas-relief sandstone images
Carved centuries ago at Angkor
Etched inside my eyelids
And when I open my eyes
Was greeted by a smiling orange robed monk
Who said his name was Green Hawk
Both of us laughing
For no apparent reason
Other than that we were happy
As we bowed, and hugged,
And took each other’s photographs.

8.
In the Shwedagon Pagoda
Perhaps the greatest Buddhist temple
In all of Myanmar,
Where eight authentic hairs from the head of Siddartha still reside
In the hall of Monday people
With golden statues the size of elephants
Each with different lips
And different eyes
With incense, flowers, and prayer beads
Which I put around my neck
I approached a carved ancient box
With inscriptions on it
secured by massive locks
which barred its opening
With scenes of teachers and wolves
The key to which no one any longer knows where it is
And into the slot thru which donations are received
I pass my fifty kyat note
with your ashes wrapped inside
Which come to rest
At the bottom of the locked box
in the temple
For so long as there shall be time
And the call of crows,
And babies crawling toward the gleam of gold,
And chanting.

9.
I left a part of you
At the top of Kyaikhtiyo Mountain
At a stupa on a rock.
It is impossible to explain
How so big a rock
Came to rest on the top of this mountain.
I left a part of myself as well.
It was hard to climb this mountain
Covered with pagodas, medicine shops
Stalls selling parts of dead animals,
watermelon,
freshly pressed cane sugar,
where swallows dart
in the freshest air on Earth,
and as your ashes float off the rock
I notice a woman sleeping
With a young child sipping at her breasts
Who wanders off
Dangerously close to the mountain’s edge
When her mother awakens and screams
Unable to protect herself
from the pain children offer
trash all over the mountain,
plastic bags
and the smell of piss
because people live here
and people die here.
And if someone who once loved me
Is moved to walk here after I am gone
They will find us all together
And they will be grateful we brought them here
As I am grateful
To have been brought here by you.

10.
We take a longboat to the sacred island of Gaungse Kyun
In the River Thanlwin,
Emptying here into the Andaman Sea,
On the shores of the city Malymine
Where dozens of dogs who know it is their island live,
With the monks and nuns who serve them,
and the orchids that flower there
and when the boat departs
and the dogs growl
and the red ants sting my feet
and I am alone
I plant your ashes
Inside the roots of a young coconut tree
In a grove of coconut trees
Facing the bridge that crosses
From the unseen to the unknown.

11.
We visit the largest statue of a reclining Buddha
On the entire planet
A statue larger than an ocean liner
With nostrils big enough to breath in people
And breathe out villages
A hollow concrete and lathe offering
That is bigger than most museums
With rooms inside it
Large enough for trucks to drive through
And dioramas with dozens of statues larger than life
Scenes of terror and hell inside the body of the Buddha
Scenes of worship and education
Of ecstasy and death
Where at the exit an orange robed monk asks
That I make a five hundred kyat donation
To secure one eight by eight purple ceramic tile
To help replace tiles which have fallen
From the outside skin of the largest statue of a reclining Buddha
On the entire planet
A place where superlatives are inadequate
And that I then write my name in the holy book of donors
And I give him the kyat
and he gives me a tile
from the stack of tiles that have not been blessed
to place onto the stack of tiles that have been blessed
in order that they may be attached
to the side of the reclining Buddha
and I write your name instead of mine
and you are thus inscribed
in the holy book of donors
kept deep inside the chest of the world’s largest Buddha
who reclines inthe village of Winseidawya
near his heart.

12.
Some of the places we visit seem less welcoming
Almost frightening
As befits their spirits and ghosts
Caves that reach 600 meters
Deep into mountains
That arise as if out of nowhere
Into the fertile plains
Caves filled with statues of Lord Buddha
Carved into the walls
His nostrils filled with the smell of melting wax
From burning candles
Guiding us deeper into a series of interconnected caves
Stepping softly and carefully with elephant feet
The silence so loud we hunger for sound
Any sound but the faint humming inside our heads
Or the unseen dog chewing
When the guides call
Letting us know it is time to go
And we do not leave any ashes here
To be frightened by the unfamiliar darkness
Nor do we leave them
At the lake where rice cast upon the waters
Is consumed by hungry fish
Or at a stupa on the rock
Where someone has used a white magic marker
to write the date of your birth
on a stairway to the heavens
or the earth below
depending on your intentions.

13.
After eleven days in Myanmar
I begin to imagine that my mother,
Dead five years now,
And my father,
Dead thirty,
Are alive
Not reborn, reincarnated, or resurrected
But having never died
People I expect to see
When I return
To the other side
Of the planet
People I buy gifts for:
A man’s Burmese skirt
For my father
A saltshaker
Shaped in the form of an owl
For my mother
It will be good to see them again.

14.
We visit the Snake Pagoda
Where a sixteen foot long python
Is carried for its daily bath
From the left side of the seated Buddha
It lives next to
To the six foot wide
By six feet long
By three feet tall blue tiled bath tub
Where it is lowered into the water
Which it likes,
You can tell by the way it moves
And by the long yellow stream of urine it emits into the water
And the brown diarrheal feces
Anyone standing within twenty feet of the snake can smell
As feathers and bones of the old chicken
The python swallowed weeks ago
Are released into the water
Which the keeper then drains from the tub
Filling it anew
With clean water
As the relieved snake sinks its head beneath the surface
And blows bubbles through its nostrils
And the keeper then lifts the snake
So that it is resting and drying
Stretched out along the top rim of the tub
And when I sit at the snake’s head
At the edge of the tub
The serpent crosses from
My right shoulder
Secure behind my neck
Over my left shoulder
Rib after rib contracting and expanding
As it slides across my form
Down onto the floor
And slithers back toward the feet of the Buddha
Where it lives.
There are at least three hundred statues
Of the Buddha sitting under the protective hood of a serpent
In the Snake Pagoda.
At one such statue, where the seated Buddha
Is affixed to a base of stone
From which the serpent arises
A deep crack has developed
And into this crack
I place some of Miles ashes
Which I then blow deeply under the seated Buddha.
When this crack has been sealed
With mortar made of sand and cement,
As it will be,
For great care is given to these statues,
Your ashes will fuse with the mortar
And fuse with the statue
To become one with it,
At the Snake Pagoda
In Paleik,
Seven miles south of Mandalay,
By the Irawaddy River.
And you shall rest there forever.

15.
Inle Lake is surrounded by steep mountains
And dozens of traditional Shan and Intha villages
That cannot be reached by any means other than boat
The lake waters rising and falling
Depending upon the season
And the mood of the goddess of rain.
Where young boys ride water buffalo
Women and men hand wash clothing
Field workers and children wave
Fishermen with nets in dugout canoes
Use one leg to paddle through the water
while standing.
Tomatoes, squashes, and corn grow on floating islands
Made of silt and muck
Created over centuries,
By people with only shovels and the will to live
Who do not greet you by asking, “How are you?”
But rather, “Are you happy?”
In this aquatic farmland
Of small footpaths
And busy boat lanes
With bamboo dams,
Bamboo retaining walls
Bamboo stakes and ties
Bamboo houses and fences
And the bamboo’s consciousness
Of strength and flexibility
Versatility and utility
In a land of industry,
Of weaving, carving, and craft,
And diligent labor
Of a floating restaurant named “Nice.”
A floating home for monks
Whose name translates to “Jumping Cat Monastery”
And actually has jumping cats.
You should come here
To see and visit with people who do not walk or run
Except inside their stilt houses,
Whose entire terra firma is often but twelve square feet
Of bamboo flooring
Filled with mats, bedding,
A wood cooking stove, some pots and pans
Family photographs,
Posters of soccer stars from England,
Clothes drying on hooks,
And bells ringing.
I wanted to leave some of you with the jumping cats,
But wasn’t sure what the monks would want
So I just eased you into the lake
To become one with the fishes
And the silt
And the floating islands
Which support the plants
That feed the people
Who grow and live
And thrive and die here
And who asked when you entered their waters,
“Are you happy.”

16.
Punducherry has a lighthouse that no longer works
A statue that looks like Mahatma Gandhi but isn’t
Carved stone columns that appear to be ancient but aren’t
A seashore with no visible boats
A beach with no people on it
And young boys who want to sell souvenirs but can’t.
Sometimes we imagine things to be alive and they aren’t.
Sometimes we think of things as dead and they are not.
The gardens at the Sri Aurobindo Ashram in Punducherry
are magnificent
The floral displays at the gravesites are magnificent
Incense is burning
People are kneeling in meditation and prayer
There are six six pointed stars carved into the gravesite icon
Resting atop Aurobindo’s remains
No photography or speaking is allowed
And other than the call of birds,
The rhythmic brushing of stone
By workmen sanding stucco
in advance of painting it
Is the only sound we hear
As I remove your ashes from their sacred pouch
The first time your body shall have touched
And been reunited
With the sacred soil of Mother India,
Half your gene pool arising from this very earth,
This rich red soil that supports over one billion beating hearts.
And the huge branching Copper Pod tree –
The “Service Tree” it is called,
Leaning protectively over the graves
Its branches supported by a massive rectangular trellis
That creates the feeling of a tent or bier
Shading both the living and the dead.
And here, at the Service Tree’s base,
I scratch and dig away at the dry red earth
With my fingernails
And press your ashes as deeply as I can
Into the fertile soil that feeds the wise and knowing Tree
That shades the living and the dead
That witnesses and feels the prayers
Of what seems to be an endless parade of silent worshippers
That absorbs the emanation of all such visitors
As surely as a sponge absorbs water
And welcomes your contribution to its earth
And offers you the comfort of its community.
When Aurobindo left his earthly body he was buried here
As was his wife, The Mother she is called, buried here.
I cannot imagine your being in better company.
And surely if it is good enough for the inspired Aurubindos
I am trusting it shall also be good for you.

17.
I am directed quite specifically by your mother
To visit the sacred caves at Ellora
Powerful testaments
To the wonder of human creativity and imagination,
Where I first learn
Lord Krishna was born in a jail
And Lord Shiva played dice.
And where I see a long tailed chipmunk
Gazing up at a very tall column
Meant to be gazed upon
As a reminder of our insignificance.
And perhaps, like Bhahubuli,
Who stood for twelve years
In one position awaiting enlightenment
I too need a good sister and her sons to make explicit
The obvious fact
That my ego is in the way
Of exposing the temple in my soul
Just like the stone
Chiseled away from this mountain
To create these holy spaces
Needs first to be removed
To be used by the villagers below
to build their homes
As its absence reveals the statues and the sacred supportive columns
That may these temples real
That which is removed as important as that which remains
And at the very moment I deposit these remains of Miles,
Who was very insistent I do so,
Into the hands of Mahavurah
In Jain cave number 32
Near the wheel of law
Someone out of sight starts singing,
And a child starts laughing,
And I rest under the wish-granting tree
To ask for his mother’s peace of mind.

18.
Ajanta cave number five is unfinished
And in ways its emptiness
compels my attention as much
As the two thousand year old tempura paintings
Whose images and colors remain.
Is a life ever truly ended, I ask
As I leave parts of you
In a meditation cell
In cave number six
Lived in by monks
Two thousand years ago
And a tigress and her cubs
Two hundred years ago.
It is cool and quiet here
And I trust you are comfortable
And seated in peace.
No one yet free
From the cycle of death and birth.
And I feel very strongly
You are already back among us.

19.
The tracks we ride upon
Are the tracks your father knew
When he escaped his life in India
The tracks your father knew
When he escaped his life in America
And made his life in America.
Not everyone can escape this life
On tracks so straight and narrow
Stretching in parallel lines that seem to merge
But never do
Secured by the strongest ties men can hammer
To bind each other to the earth
To serve the trains that run upon them
Passed the fields of rice and cabbage
Banana and rubber trees
Young children selling tiny eggs
At every life station and every crossing
Where barriers are lowered and raised
In deference to the trains
Carrying holy men returning to see their mothers
And families who have slept on straw mats
On the platforms of the railroad stations
Where they have rested
And pissed onto the tracks
Tracks that take each train’s guests
From the beginning of their journey
And tribulations
To their end.

20.
Into the Ganges, in Varanasi,
In sight of the burning ghats
Accompanied by loud drumming
The chanting of thousands
The full rising moon,
Nearer than the moon has been to Earth in eighteen years,
I release all but the last of you.
I do not want to let you go,
Not now,
Not ever,
And especially not here
Amidst the filth
We obsessive compulsives know cannot be good for you.
But where every Hindu
Hopes to end their journey
And with a sense of avuncular duty
I purchase a small floating candle on a tray
Surrounded by rose petals
That I sprinkle some of your ashes upon
And send you off with fond wishes,
Prayers one might say,
That like these waters
You too will rise into the heavens
And return to Earth
To sustain life on the planet
In the cycle of transformation
And rebirth.

21.
In Rishikesh the journey of your ashes ends
As the sun is setting
Near the headwaters of the Ganga
Among the singing of hundreds of worshippers
And the praying of holy men
your ashes poured into the Ganga
The plastic bag they have traveled in
stretched and ripped
Like a placenta
to float away
This the fifteenth place and sixth country
Your ashes have been consecrated
Establishing a standard
We trust will stand for all time
Once in America, in Thailand once,
Twice in Laos, in Cambodia once,
In Myanmar five times,
And five times
Once for each of the elements that comprise us all –
earth, ether, fire, air, and water –
In Mother India,
At temples
In lakes and rivers
In statues and locked boxes
From a boat
At the Ganges twice
and then nothing of your remains remains,
Although your energy still radiates.

22.
Epilogue 1
Into the now empty velvet pouch
That carried your ashes
I place twenty eight hundred rupees
An immense amount of money in India
One hundred rupees for each year of your time on Earth
And hand the pouch to a grandmotherly beggar
Seated with a sleeping injured child
On the streets of Delhi
I’ve envisioned a moment like this I realize
as I wait for what happens next –
the beggar opening the pouch,
the look of surprise on her face –
But the woman does not open pouch
Instead just folding it into her sari
Then touching my feet
putting her hands together in prayer and gratitude
and tucking the injured child more tightly
Into her lap.
I do not know
If the woman has any idea what she has been given
And as I stand there
Waiting for what will happen next
She pours some water into a plastic cup
And holds it to the child’s lips.
Later when I return the woman is still seated there
Only now a second child
Is laying on the ground sleeping next to her
And when I raise my hands palm up
And shrug my shoulders in a gesture that means
What do you know
She reaches into her sari
takes out a now empty pouch
Pats her breast
And puts her hands together
in a sign of gratitude
And when I see her one last time
There are five children sleeping around her.
And Miles has journeyed home.

23.
Epilogue 2

Epilogue 2
Less than a year passes when I am drawn again
To Jain cave #32 at Ellora
As magical and mystical as it is every day
Only more so
I have come here with your mother and brother
Making this sacred pilgrimage
Wrought with meaning and remembrance
As if visiting the place of your birth
And your many burials
Only we have lost one another
Your mother and brother and I
Distracted and separated
Unable to find one another as hours pass
The symbolism of our separation profound
I walk alone for miles to cave 32
I meet men harvesting cactus they say is medicinal
That will make my home happy
As they give me an arm and a hand
I meet families who give me their email addresses
And ask I take and send them family photos
I plant myself in one place
As you and the cactus have been planted in one place
Trusting your mother will find me
Here at temple 32
But there is only the hunting hawk
The chirping of squirrels
The man who offers me peanuts
The quiet as day draws coolly toward an end
And it becomes obvious to me that I will not be found
That I must seek them out
That I can wait for them no longer.
I trusted they must come to you here this once
And they did not.
Magical thinking no doubt
They have probably chosen to wait for me
At the entrance
Thus revealing another difference between the living and the dead,
That the living believe
only they may seek their fate
And maintain the illusion, that the dead only wait.